Him:
A situation I'm not too familiar with.
Now that it's summertime with all the school stress off my back, I figured it was time to get back into the dating game again. (It's a pretty long story, btw, so be ready for a lot of reading, lol)
Now, what happened was 2 weeks ago, I asked this girl to the movies, and she said yes--only for her to ask to make it a "group" date two days later. I thought about it for awhile, and told her that it should just be us two, that it would be fun, and that I looked forward to it--to which she said yes again. I then texted her the next day to set up the times for the movies, and she said she couldn't make it because her parents were out of town, she had errands to run, and had to look after her little brother. She told me she'd let me know when she was free. So, I sorta blamed it on bad timing and just me being a victim of circumstances.
I'd say I'm pretty good friends with her and text her somewhat often, so a few days later I started to text her again, and she didn't respond. It took a few texts (I got replies to one or two of them a day later), and in one of them I asked her if she knew which days she was free (which was probably a bad idea?), and got no response to that.
However, it gets a little more complicated...one of my friends thought it would be clever if he set me up with the girl I asked to the movies (I didn't tell him I asked her to the movies either), and came up with this whole crazy plan to get us together. He later told me he first asked her (through text) what she thought of me, to which she answered "Why?" Then later asked her if she liked me or not, and got no reply.
So the next day, we had our usual group get-togethers (my friend and the girl were part of this group) and all 3 of us were there (with other people, of course). When I got there, the girl and her best friend COMPLETELY ignored me and I didn't know why (at the time, I didn't know that my friend asked her those questions) for the first half an hour (they didn't even look at me), until I finally said something that got both of their attentions. Then the rest of the night was completely normal.
After that, we went back to our texts/chats as usual...and, me trying not to annoy her but somehow get an answer, asked her about the movies again, in which she didn't respond to the question.
So after all this, I'm still not sure where I'm at or what's going on. My friend thinks her hesitancy in answering the questions is a good thing. I don't know.
So, I just wanted to know what your thoughts on this were, what's most likely going through her mind and what she could be thinking, and what you think I should do.
Again, sorry for making you read all this. I tried to get in all the useful details and still make it as short as possible.
Thanks for your help--you guys rock, keep it up the vids.
WG:
Hey dude,
Ok here's the good news. This girl is sending you the message loud and clear that she's not interested, so it's time to move on. The only problem is, that its easy to misinterpret her messages because she's just not responding. That's a really clear sign that she doesn't see you two together. Even if a girl is playing hard to get, she still will send messages that she's interested. Like, if she cancels plans, she will offer an alternate time that she's free to make sure she keeps you involved. This girl is doing none of these things. She's just running away. So, let her go and focus your efforts on a girl that will text you back, who does want to hang out with you, and who will tickle your inner thigh during the whole movie. We know you like it.
Friday, July 10, 2009 at 05:06PM